An Open Argument to Women-on-Women Hate☺
Dear W.W.H.O.W (Women Who Hate on Other Women), I am writing this letter to you today because it has been brought to my attention that not only are women judged crucially by men, society, the government, dogs, and probably aliens on Mars, they're judged by other women as well. Oh the irony. This probably isn't a surprise to you already, because you've probably been spending your days on a nice cottage in Vermont, swiping through Instagram, dishing out the latest gossip on other women's posts. "You wear way too much makeup", "You shouldn't post a body positivity picture, it's just you asking for attention", "Your cat isn't even cute, Jennifer". Well, here is a nice little public service announcement for you all. It's rude. And that's just the tip of the iceberg. I'm not sure if you're all aware of this, but humans have a choice. *gasp* And... wait for it, this is the craziest part... Women are humans too. *poof* Mind-blown. Therefore, since women are identified as apart of the human species, they have a choice to do whatever they please with their bodies, actions, and personal image. I also understand you have just as much the right to judge these women, because this is a "free country" and all. Just thought I would mention, a woman sharing the personal glorification of her body does not have a negative impact on anyone else. It actually adds another optimistic & generally happy human being to this crazy, psychopathic, depressing world. Now, who is that harming? You couldn't possibly think it's you, do you? Because I'm pretty sure your eyes will not fall out of your sockets and bleed, your insides won't disintegrate and dissolve, cats will not come out of nowhere in hoards of 60 and claw your face to shreds because some girl is posting a picture of her "side-boob". Women have sex. Men have sex. Women post pictures of their bodies on social media. Men post pictures of their bodies on social media. In a world full of double standards, women should be trying to knock these expectations down, not making them a bigger issue by joining in and shaming women for their actions. We are all separate individuals, and what one woman might agree with, another may not. Disagreements aside, if you don't like something someone is doing, don't assume you have the right to judge them for their behavior, unless it is directly affecting you and harming your happiness. You, as the critic, don't have the power. Not in the case of when a woman is glorifying her body using social media, or having consensual sex, or wearing whatever she pleases and being fully aware of the fact that she made that decision. If a woman is posting a photo of herself in little to no clothing, she has the consent and the power over everyone. She is the one posting the picture, putting on or taking off the clothes, and can leave the situation at any time. She has the power. She has the consent. That is what makes it sexually empowering. When you tear down a woman, whether you are aware you are doing it or not, you are actually sexually objectifying her. Majdoline Lyazidi, a twenty-year-old Morocco resident, created the SlutWalk. "SlutWalks have protested rape culture in general and specifically zeroed into the practice of slut shaming and victim blaming. The marches have also been sites of female sexual celebration, where displays of female sexuality are presented as acts of self-expression rather than invitations aimed at men." (Hackman, Rose. Amber Rose Interview). “I’ve been called a slut while I was still a virgin. I have been called a slut while I was in a committed relationship with my husband," American model, actress, and entrepreneur, Amber Rose, says. “So it really doesn’t matter what you do in life, people can call you that name because they are uncomfortable with your sexuality. That’s all it is.” Sexual empowerment and body positivity have been symbols of strength for women everywhere. It gives them the right to be free of their sexuality without judgment or contradictions. Or at least that's what the goal is. If you're uncomfortable with someone's sexuality and actions, it takes nothing to simply accept them, because by casting judgement on other women for being "sluts and whores", it affects other womens lives, whether you notice or not. Besides, women calling other women derogatory statements just gives men more of a reason to deem us with the same exact derogatory statements. "Oh, well if women can hate on other women, then I can too! I've casted judgment on other women. It's a difficult thing to not do. As humans, our second nature is to share our opinions as much as we possibly can. Society is designed to make women believe that men want us for our bodies and as objects of satisfaction, but if we give them what they demand, even for our own pleasure, we are the ones to blame and the ones at fault. How is that fair? It's not. There is no win for women. It doesn't help one bit. But being tolerant, and understanding, and respectful towards women who go through the same exact struggles as we deal with, but maybe in extraordinarily different ways, helps a ton. We all enter this world, and we all leave this world. Don't spend it worrying about what other women are doing with their time and reputation. Accept them as a sister, and stand together. There are bigger issues to deal with, and the only way they will be solved is is if we bring each other up. Not tear each other down.
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Jatos
1/28/2016 10:32:37 pm
You go, girl.
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Hillary
1/29/2016 02:24:16 pm
Thank you for speaking up on this. I agree with you 100%
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Baker
2/19/2016 12:37:17 pm
I am so happy you posted this for others to see.
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Grace
2/21/2016 01:49:03 pm
That's a really good point.
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Cheylani
2/22/2016 10:01:24 am
Grace, you're such a good writer. I love the title
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